Self What?

One thing I hear a lot is how women struggle with getting  their self-confidence, self-esteem and self-image back after a breakup. A breakup can have a devastating effect to your ego. It can make you feel worthless and unlovable for months if not years. One client of mine said it felt like she was being "thrown away like a piece of garbage". This is especially true if they dumped you for someone else.  You start doubting everything about yourself that you thought was once true. I mean, if they dumped you, that MUST mean there is something wrong with you.  All of a sudden, everything is the exact opposite of what it once was.  So, how do you start feeling good about yourself again?  One thing not to do is play the "if only" game. You know, the one where "if only" you were taller, younger, thinner, smarter, blonder, funnier etc. When you do this you are only cheating yourself, and that is the ultimate betrayal. It means you don't value who YOU are. You aren't respecting your boundaries. You think you're not good enough.  Negative self-talk is soul destroying.  It creates negative expectations which turns to low self-esteem.  You are what you think you are.  So instead of telling yourself everything you aren't, I want you to look in the mirror every morning and start telling yourself how lovely and fabulous you are.  Focus on 1 thing you are great at or like about yourself, and then tell yourself how great you are.  Just by doing this one little thing every day, you will start building your self confidence and self-image and that will start a snowball effect of all the other things you are great at and like about yourself. As crazy as it sounds, this will give you a reason and permission to approve of and like yourself.  You will be surprised at how you start to accept yourself and love you exactly as you are.  You do not need to change yourself for the right person and there is nothing sexier or more attractive than a confident woman.  So screw them! Just because they couldn't see your value doesn't mean you don't have it. Not everyone is able to see the diamond in the lump of coal.  Who wants someone like that?  Not you, right?  I mean, really, who is better than you at being you?  So go out there and rock it like nobody's business!

So comment below and tell me the one thing you are great at and like about yourself.