Friends with Benefits – Is it Possible?

This is a hot topic nowadays.  There was even a movie about it starring Justin Timberlake and Mila Kunis.  They thought that of course people can be friends with benefits.  There do not have to be feelings involved. And if you saw that movie, you know that while it may have worked out for them, it was not an easy path.

Why are we so drawn to this concept?  Is it because we are horny? Is it because we think it will be easier? Do we really want to keep our options open in case something better comes along?  Really think about your reasoning, because if you think about it, the “friend” has their reason too, which most likely would not make us feel good to know!

I have never met anyone who was able to make a “FWB relationship” work.  As a matter of fact, only about 10% of these arrangements result in a happily ever after. It always starts out like such a great idea. But then, one of you starts dating, or gets too clingy, or starts to change the rules. Maybe there’s talk of meeting the family – that’s a buzzkill for a FWB situation for sure.  The rules ALWAYS get broken!

And, I almost think it hurts more. Because to be rejected is one thing.  But to be rejected by someone who you share intimate moments with is a whole other story – it’s just as bad “breaking up” with a FWB as it is during a relationship breakup!

Honestly, when you think about it, is it really ever worth it?  The odds of someone getting hurt are extremely high.  Do you want to lose a friend for temporary satisfaction and impending drama?